Friday, January 06, 2006

How to avoid rape

Thanks to EineKleineRob for directing me to this amazing post. It came to him via Rachel of North London, but appears to be doing the rounds. No matter. This stuff deserves repeating, loudly and often:
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.If your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and It's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.
Don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions.
You can, too, help yourself.
If you agree, repost it. It's that important.


Paul said...

How about respecting women and having people (especially women) use good common sense! Rapists are beneath contempt in my book.

Marie said...

Why "especially women"?

SimonHolyHoses said...

Most men, especially young ones, revert to stick-banging territorial chimp bahaviour when they think nobody is looking. Likewise when, for whatever reason (drugs, drink, obsessive selfishness), they don't care if anyone is looking.

I'm starting to think more and more that it is a dominant psychological trait in men.

Not that nature ever justifies such behaviour in a being who is able to think sympathetically.

But most people are capable of ruthless and inhumane cruelty when the situation suits them.

Paul said...

I said "especially women", because a higher percentage of women are raped than men.